The divorce process can make it extremely difficult for children and their parents to retain their relationship. Oftentimes, the child feels abandoned and as if they cannot maintain their normal life after the divorce has been completed. To help keep your children comfortable as you finalize your divorce, our Mendocino County law firm presents several co-parenting tips in this latest post.
Hone communication with your former partner
In simplifying the co-parenting process, it’s important to begin on a basis of strong, forthright communication. Make sure that you make requests rather than statements. Reach out to your former partner by using phrasing such as “Could you…” and “Can we try…” – this can help to alleviate some of the communication challenges that many face attempting to co-parent after a divorce. Remember to also show restraint when possible. There are likely to be emotional moments when communicating with your former partner. For the good of your child, you should try to limit anger in responding to their actions, and keep the conversation focused on the child and their needs.
Build a team unit
Former couples can align themselves in caring for their child by building a robust team unit. Commit to holding the same rules between households so that the child knows what is acceptable and unacceptable to you both as a team. Try to keep to a similar schedule so that child knows, for example, that homework should be completed before they see friends or play video games. You should also make decisions as a team. When a financial or educational issue arises, such as the child being disciplined at school, you should alert the other parent to the issue and come to an agreement together on the way to respond. In building agreements and overcoming disputes, consult with your local Mendocino County law firm directly.
Simplify the transition
The transition from one parent’s home to the other parent’s home can be challenging. Try to make the process as seamless as possible by helping the child adapt to the change. Prepare younger children by packing for their transition. Make sure you remind the child they will be going to their mom’s/dad’s home in the next day or two. When making the transition, ensure that each parent drops off the child at the home rather than have the other person pick up. This can help prevent interruptions to the family bonding time.